Teamwork

My new friend May said it best. "If you didn't have a solid and good relationship in your marriage, having a child will bring it to light" "A lot of times it's not about who did what chore...it's about the feeling of whether you work as a team". I couldn't agree more.
Otherwise, Nick could be doing a lot of the chores like laundry, trash, bottles, vacuum and I would still feel he is not a part of bringing up Abby.
I guess it took about a year for us to feel like we work as a team. Not much changed (the chore part)....just little things.

He still comes home around Abby's dinner time. But instead of checking emails or reading news, he would come look at what we were doing (taking a bath or playing or eating or going to bed). He still goes and does his computer stuff. But every so often he would come participate in Abby's routine.

He would take the frozen baby food out to defrost before leaving to go to work.

He would wash and fill all Abby's drinking cups before going to bed.

Instead of finishing the leftovers at dinner, he would pack a lunch for me for the next day.

And without saying anything, he would start making dinner if I haven't done so when he gets home.

He plans activities around Abby's sleep schedule more.

And he asks what new things Abby has learned.

Oh, and we make the baby food together in the evenings.

It's probably the little things done to make each other's life easier (without being asked).